Grand Theft Auto: San Andreas/Dating

Dating Do's and Don'ts

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San Andreas introduces the ability for the player to pick up dates and go out with them.

The main reason to date a girl is to get a special bonus in exchange. However CJ's girlfriends, just like in real life, require upkeep and pampering, and the right care for their personality and tastes.

Pickup Methods
There are six girls found around the map that are dateable. They have a blue marker above their head to alert the player to this fact. Each girl can only be found in one particular place (see below).

CJ can date more than one girl at once, and, unlike in real life, the other girlfriends don't seem bothered if he adds another to his harem.

All that is necessary to get a date is to walk up to a woman. CJ doesn't have to say anything; if she likes the look of him she'll ask for a date, if she doesn't she'll brush him off and say what she doesn't like about him.

There are usually particular appearance features a girl likes. If CJ meets her criteria, it's a date; if not, she'll give him tips about what to improve so he can dress up and work out and try again later. However if CJ's sex appeal rating is high enough (through things like a modded car, clothes, and oyster collection) that will override the girl's fancy and he can date her regardless of his physique.

The Right Ride
Get a fast or pimped-up car before you go on your date, as it will improve your sex appeal while you are in it or have just exited it. However some girls do not like fast driving, so watch the acceleration when riding with them.

Starting the Date
To start a date with a girl, simply go to her house. However the girls will only be home at certain times. If she's home a two-player icon (PS and Xbox only) and a red marker will appear, along with her car. Simply walk or drive into the red marker to begin the date.

If she's not home the red marker and car won't be there, and if CJ tries to visit anyway a text message will tell him she's not home.

Upon entering the marker, one of several types of dates is chosen randomly and the girl will tell CJ where to take her. Each type of date has specific objectives, and each girl's requirements for the date is different.

Types of Dates
successful date: the ideal goal, CJ drops his girl home and she expresses enjoyment of it.

"abandon date": CJ leaves the girl behind. The easiest way to do this is to get in a car and roar off before she has time to get in. Once CJ is so far away that her marker is at the edge of the mini-map, the date instantly ends.

failed date: CJ drops the girl off home and has failed. This might be that he failed to follow the girl's requirements, or that the date took too long, or even if appearance standards are too low when he drops her off (perhaps if he swapped clothes or cars in the meantime).

What Not To Do on a Date
Make sure to never hurt a girl, even by accident. Hitting her once might not fail the date, but hitting more than once or shooting will instantly end the date. Understandably, the relationship meter goes down by a huge amount and will be difficult to get back up to where it was.

The girls have a lot of health but they can still be killed; if a girl is killed by CJ (not counting other drivers etc. killing her) she will no longer be his girlfriend.

Gifts and Kisses
On most date types, CJ can give his girlfriend flowers, a dildo, or, surprisingly, a vibrator; it is located in the weapon slot so scroll to it and give it to her by pressing the L1 button when standing in front of her. Be careful to not hit attack instead or he will attack her with it (see What Not To Do on a Date).


 * Flowers can be found all over San Andreas, usually at gas stations, and can also be found hiding in flower beds and gardens.


 * Dildos can be found in the sex shop featured in the mission "Key to her heart" or in some police stations around San Andreas.


 * Vibrators can be found at the construction site in the Bayside area behind a big dumpster.

CJ can also kiss his girl (by standing near her and holding L1). If their relationship rating is rather low, she may push him away, but if the relationship is going well she will readily kiss him back.

However kisses don't always affect the relationship level positively; to help ensure a better rating give a gift and then kiss her immediately after.

Another thing CJ can do is take a photo of his girl (if he has a camera). Simply point the camera at her; if done right CJ will say something and she will wave and smile. However taking a picture does not seem to affect the relationship.

Depth of the Relationship
CJ has a relationship meter for every girl he has met. This is added under Achievements on the stat screen after he meets with a girl.

The relationship meter is a percentage value of 0-100%; however if the relationship is at 0 the meter will not be shown. The meter starts off around 10% and goes to about 15% when CJ starts dating her.

The meter can be raised by doing the right things, such as giving a gift or kissing her. However other things can make it decrease.

Hot Coffee
When CJ's relationship is good enough he can go in for "coffee". However some diligent hackers have discovered that Rockstar originally planned for CJ to get a whole lot more than "coffee" when he went into their houses. Read more about Hot Coffee at the Mods page.

The Girls
There are six girls who can become CJ's girlfriend.

Denise Robinson

 * Where: Get from "Burning Desire" mission in Los Santos. Her house next to Grove Street in Ganton.
 * When: 16:00 to 06:00
 * Turn-ons: Drive-by shootings of non-Grove Street gang members, Fast food resturants.
 * Reward for Dating: Key to her car after the first "coffee".
 * Reward for 100% Progress: Pimp Clothes

Katie Zhan

 * Where: At the edge of the golf course at the The Avispa Country Club in San Fierro (Northeast corner, near the gym).
 * When: 12:00 to 00:00
 * Turn-ons: Muscular men, Chinatown, Diners, Car crashes.
 * Turn-offs: Area around where she lives, Fast food resturants.
 * Reward for Dating: You can get out of hospital for free after being wasted, you also get to keep all your weapons.
 * Reward for 100% Progress: Medic Clothes

NOTE: When doing Katie's driving date, she will keep urging you to go faster, even when the game tells you that you are driving too fast. Pay attention to the game and ignore the girl. She seems to like speed and car crashes well enough the rest of the time, but keep your vehicle at cruising speeds on the date or she will quickly become bored.

Helena Wankstein

 * Where: Blueberry, Red County on top of the Ammunation.
 * When: 08:00 to 12:00 and 14:00 to 02:00
 * Turn-ons: The Countryside, Posh Restaurants.
 * Turn-offs: Muscular men, Urban areas.
 * Reward for Dating: Access to Helena's stash of weapons in her barn, includes a pistol, a chainsaw, a flamethrower, and molotov cocktails.
 * Reward for 100% Progress: Country Clothes

Michelle Cannes

 * Where: Driving school in San Fierro.
 * When: 00:01 to 12:00
 * Turn-ons: Fat men, Bars.
 * Turn-offs: Driving slowly, Diners.
 * Reward for Dating: Free use of Michelle's garage, which is basically a Pay 'N Spray.
 * Reward for 100% Progress: Racing Clothes

Barbara Schternvart

 * Where: El Quebrados, The Sheriff's Parking Lot.
 * When: 16:00 to 06:00
 * Turnons: Diners, Fat men.
 * Turn-offs: Driving too fast.
 * Reward for Dating: You can get out of jail for free after being busted, you also get to keep all your weapons.
 * Reward for 100% Progress: Police Uniform

Millie Perkins

 * Where: "Key to her Heart" mission in Las Venturas. Her house is in Spiney Red, a northern suburb of Las Venturas.
 * When: 02:00 to 10:00 and 14:00 to 20:00; Some days only at exactly at 12:00.
 * Turn-ons: The gimp suit, Clubs?
 * Turn-offs: Damaging your car at all, Dinners, Smoothies
 * Reward for Dating: A casino security entrance card, required for a mission.
 * Reward for 100% Progress: ?

Note: Many people report that dating Millie is an extreme hassle. To ease the process, start a date with her, then kill her. You should get a call from Woozie. Now you can just go into her house and take the card.